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From https://www.ted.com/series/the_way_we_work
Every parent is a working parent, whether they have a job outside of the home or not.
When Angela shows up at the office, know that Angela has been up for at least three hours, had her hand covered in human excrement, unwedged a small person who has become lodged in between the washing machine and the wall, gotten down on her hands and knees and picked up oatmeal off the carpet. Domestic labor, which is what parenting is and everything that goes along with parenting, it’s not just taking care of a child; it’s keeping a household running, washing dishes, doing laundry, it’s keeping the schedule tight. We again assume that that work will be done by a wife who’s at home.
The reality has progressed beyond where we’re at policy-wise. Most people need multiple sources of income, women want to work outside of the home — we’re still expected to do all of the same things. And so now we outsource a lot of that parenting work to other women, and mainly women of color. We don’t give it financial, cultural value, and so we don’t see it as real work.
Care is really the backbone of our society. That work is what makes all other work possible. So how should we support parents in the workplace?
[Support family leave]
There are only two industrialized countries in the entire world that don’t guarantee some paid family leave, and the United States is one of them. We should be envying Ghana, Brazil, Turkey, Serbia, Japan, the United Kingdom, Norway, the Netherlands, Sweden — we’re lagging behind the world on this. When I say paid family leave, I’m not talking about necessarily just newborn maternity leave. That includes paternity leave, all genders, families that are adopting and welcoming a new child into their home, people bringing foster children into their home, taking care of aging parents. You know, at some point in your life, someone that you love and care about is going to need help. You should have the right to take time to take care of them. People do their best work when they feel seen and supported by the people that they work for. It’s pretty simple.
[Listen to parents]
Being a parent is often seen as a weakness in the workplace. You come back and people make a lot of assumptions about you. You’re not invited to go on work trips because assumptions are made that you don’t want to do that, or you can’t. And that can be really disempowering to people, and it’s really discouraging and it makes them — in a period of time that’s already stressful — can make you feel even worse.
[Talk to parents]
Asking a coworker about how things are going at home or with their kid, making people feel like they don’t have to hide that. “What’s up with your two-year-old?” Ask to see a picture of their child.
[Be flexible]
For parents, the hours between 5-8pm are really crucial. It’s sometimes the only time you really have with your kids. You’re often running to pick them up somewhere or to relieve someone from doing childcare. I would much rather send a few emails at 8:30pm than be on a call at 5pm. And so I think emphasizing and creating a culture of work where it’s the work that gets done, the work is what matters, the end result is what matters, as opposed to tracking time in a traditional way, and opening up the lines of communication around that can be really beneficial. Letting a coworker know that you have their back if they want to say that 4:45 doesn’t work for them as a meeting time, that you’ll step in and say that you can’t do it either, right? Just something to show solidarity.
[Oh yeah … ]
One other thing, as a former breastfeeding mother in an office place — a pumping mother — I should say that if you want to clean out your office fridge every now and then, that is a really beautiful thing to do for a pumping mother, because I used to do that in my office. I would put my little cooler that had breast milk amid like year-old bottles of salad dressing, pad thai that had become petrified, just gross stuff. And no one should have to do that, right? Again, a very, very small thing that makes a big difference in someone’s life.
In striving to be as efficient as possible, as achieving, as productive as possible, we’ve drifted away from this notion of care and parenting being important work. But we need to talk about these things and bring parenting and family life out into the open, because we can’t fix problems that we don’t see. We can’t fix problems that we don’t talk about. It really doesn’t have to be this hard and we can do much more to support people.
單字
From https://dictionary.cambridge.org/
https://www.merriam-webster.com/
excrement
(noun [U]) the solid waste that is released from the bowels of a person or animal
中文解釋
糞便;排泄物
wedge
(verb [T]) to put something into a very small or narrow space, so that it cannot move easily
中文解釋
擠入,插入,塞入;卡住
unwedged
- to remove a wedge from
- to release from a tight position
lodge
(verb [I orT, usually + adv/prep ])to (cause to) become stuck in a place or position
中文解釋
(使)固定;(使)卡住
get down on one’s (hands and) knees
to kneel down
oatmeal
(noun [ U ]) a type of flour made from oats
中文解釋
燕麥粉
carpet
(noun[ C or U ])(a shaped piece of) thick material used for covering floors
中文解釋
地毯;地毯織物
domestic
(adjective) belonging or relating to the home, house, or family
中文解釋
家庭的
labor
(noun [ U ]) practical work, especially when it involves hard physical effort
中文解釋
勞動;(尤指)體力勞動
household
(noun [ C, + sing/pl verb ]) a group of people, often a family, who live together
中文解釋
一家人,一戶,家庭
outsource
(verb [ I or T ])If a company outsources, it pays to have part of its work done by another company.
中文解釋
外包,委外;(將…)委外辦理
backbone
(noun [ C ])the line of bones down the centre of the back that provides support for the body
中文解釋
脊骨,脊椎
the backbone of sth
the most important part of something, providing support for everything else
中文解釋
主要成分;支柱;中樞
industrialized
(adjective)having developed a lot of industry
中文解釋
工業化的
envy
(verb [ T ]) to wish that you had something that another person has
中文解釋
羡慕;忌妒
Ghana
(noun)a country in west Africa
中文解釋
迦納(西非國家)
Brazil
(noun)a country in South America
中文解釋
巴西
Serbia
(noun)a country in southeastern Europe
中文解釋
塞爾維亞(歐洲東南部國家)
Norway
(noun)a country in northern Europe
中文解釋
挪威(北歐國家)
Netherlands
(noun)a country in western Europe
中文解釋
荷蘭(西歐國家)
Sweden
(noun)a country in northern Europe
中文解釋
瑞典(北歐國家)
lag
(verb[ I ]) to move or make progress so slowly that you are behind other people or things
中文解釋
緩慢移動;掉隊,滯後
maternity
(adjective)related to pregnancy and birth
中文解釋
懷孕的;產婦的
maternity leave
(noun [ U ])a period in which a woman is legally allowed to be absent from work in the weeks before and after she gives birth
中文解釋
產假
gender
(noun[ C])all males, or all females, considered as one group
中文解釋
(所有)男人,女人
foster
(adjective) used to refer to someone or something connected with the care of children, usually for a limited time, by someone who is not the child’s legal parent
中文解釋
(在有限的一段時間內)(所)收養的,(所)代養的
disempower
(verb [ T ])to take away someone’s confidence and feeling of being in control of their life
中文解釋
削弱…的力量;削弱…的自信心
crucial
(adjective)extremely important or necessary
中文解釋
至關重要的;關鍵的;決定性的
beneficial
(adjective)helpful, useful, or good
中文解釋
有益的,有用的,有利的
solidarity
(noun [ U ])agreement between and support for the members of a group, especially a political group
中文解釋
團結一致
breastfeed
(verb [ I or T ]) When a mother breastfeeds her baby, she feeds it with milk directly from her breasts rather than with artificial or cow’s milk from a bottle.
中文解釋
母乳餵養
amid
(preposition)in the middle of or surrounded by
中文解釋
在…中間,在…當中;為…環繞
petrified
(adjective)
- extremely frightened
- having changed to a substance like stone
中文解釋
- 嚇呆的,驚呆的
- 石化的
strive
(verb [ I ]) to try very hard to do something or to make something happen, especially for a long time or against difficulties
中文解釋
(尤指長期或不畏艱難地)努力,奮鬥,力爭
drift
(verb [ I usually + adv/prep ]) to move slowly, especially as a result of outside forces, with no control over direction
中文解釋
(尤指在外力作用下)飄,漂流,漂移
notion
(noun [ C or U ])a belief or idea
中文解釋
觀念;看法